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P A R E N T S & T E E N S
Helping Parents Connect With Their Teens!
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August 3, 2002
Vol. 3 No. 20
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A twice monthly e-zine for parents of teenagers from
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I N T H I S I S S U E
Proverbs for Parenting
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Hello everybody and welcome to Parents & Teens!
Today we are beginning a new column for those of you who want to
apply the Bible to your life in regards to parenting teenagers.
Proverbs
for Parenting Teens is a devotional column featuring the lessons
from
the Bible. Let us know what you think by emailing us at:
Proverbs
Happy Parenting!
Patti
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PROVERBS FOR PARENTING
Temper that Temper
By Patti Chadwick
Proverbs 16:32
"It is better to be patient than powerful; it is better to
have self
control than to conquer a city." (NLT)
This is a very important verse that affects the whole Christian
life.
Many of us struggle with a bad temper and this verse serves as a
reminder that only fools rush in, saying things without thinking
and
acting in ways that are unlovely.
My teens and I have memorized this verse in the KJV and like the
way
it is stated, "He that is slow to anger is better than the
mighty...."
It's hard to keep one's temper and it shows great personal strength
do
so. The KJV goes on to say, "and he that ruleth his spirit
than he who
taketh a city." It is harder to control yourself than it is
for a warrior to
invade and capture an entire city! What a lesson for your teens!
No wonder James 3:8 warns us "but no man can tame the tongue.
It is
a restless evil, full of deadly poison." How hard it is to
say the right
thing. Even harder is NOT saying the wrong thing.
Do you struggle with your temper? When you get busy or tired, is
it
easy for you to be provoked? When you are provoked, do you behave
in an unseemly manner? You are a model to your teens. You set an
example, whether good or bad. You need to set the right example
for
them to follow in this matter. Usually people live what they learn,
so
make sure you are teaching your teens to control their temper by
controlling your own. They need to learn this lesson early on; their
adult life will be all the better for it.
Why not memorize this verse with your teens and take it to heart.
Use
it as a reminder to practice self control in your everyday life
and
relationships.
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Patti Chadwick is a WAHM of 3 teens and is creator of two websites.
www.beyoncesource.com is designed to help parents connect with
their teens. www.Historyswomen.com is an online magazine
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HAPPY HOLIDAYS FOR PARENTS & TEENS
I'd like to remind you about our next project here at
Parents & Teens. We are going to be developing a new
ebook of Holiday Traditions, Recipes, and Homemade Gifts that
are perfect for families with teenagers - and we'd like your
input! If you have a favorite tradition, recipe, or gift
that you know teens will love, send it to us at:
patti with HOLIDAY BOOK in the
subject line.
Remember, those who submit items that appear in the ebook will
receive a free copy! Thanks for all the great ideas you've sent
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ORGANIZED TIMES COLUMN
Fridge Clutter and How to Avoid it
Anyone who spends any time at all in a kitchen quickly learns about
refrigerator art: what it is, how it's displayed, and who created
it. If
your refrigerator is anything like that of other parents, it's plastered
with kid art, the family calendar, homework assignments, soccer
schedules, doctor's appointment reminders, and.... that's just the
front!
My refrigerator is full, too, but I gave up rearranging those teeny
magnets ages ago. No sooner would I get six of them to hold up one
tiny school picture, than SLAM - there went the whole arrangement
crashing to the floor. Below are some of my favorite tricks of the
trade
to start taming the fridge clutterbug in your home:
Art du Jour - Instead of turning the front of your refrigerator
into an
art gallery, why not limit artwork to 1 per artist, saving the remaining
paintings for Grandma or the scrapbook. Rotate the pictures daily
or
weekly, store in a tagboard portfolio beside the refrigerator, and
then
move them to a more permanent home (like a treasure box or
scrapbook). Hint: place your budding artists in charge of this project,
letting them choose one day a week to change out the artwork. Create
a "home" for undisplayed work to live after its served
time in the
magnetic gallery.
Photo Mat- Consider using magnetic-backed acrylic frames to display
your favorite snapshots. These come in various sizes for your photos,
from wallet to 8x10. Or consolidate your pictures into a collage
mat.
Purchase these ready-made from catalogs, or make your own by
backing them with heavy-duty magnet sheets purchased from your
local craft or discount store.
Clip Art -Purchase extra-strong magnetic clips to hold important
papers. Think of this as a vertical clipboard where you can post
grocery list, soccer schedule, homework assignments, signed field
trip
releases, and copies of your latest dietary requirements. Not only
does
this conserve precious space, but also if your magnet is strong
enough,
you can just flip through to the page you need with little rearranging.
Chore Charts - Eliminate the need for repeated note posting and
use a
pint-sized chore chart for your family. I found a small wipe-off
board
shaped like a pencil in the school supply section of a local discount
store, complete with grids, stickers, and erasable marker. This
particular product is backed with strong magnets, but you can easily
improvise and add your own to a poster or homemade chart. If your
kids are small, you may want to hang this high to avoid creative
rearrangements of the stickers.
ABCs and 123s Please - Let's take a quick poll to see how many sets
of plastic alphabet magnets you purchased before your kids reached
adolescence - anyone? I'll bet that if you pulled out the refrigerator
from the wall or used a coat hanger, you could fish out enough ABCs
to write the Gettysburg Address. Why not use an alphabet poster
instead, with medium-strength magnets attached to the back? Take
a
quick road trip to your local school supply, and you will find posters
on any subject that your child is interested in: alphabet (upper
and
lower), numbers (1-10, 10-20), farm animals, manners, The 5 Senses,
etc. I think you get the picture - it's much easier to corral a
poster than
a menagerie of plastic parts. Once Junior is old enough to use those
plastic letters for spelling words, he's outgrown the fridge easel
anyway, and can easily use a laptop magnetic board or one that is
mounted on his wall.
With a bit of creativity and a lot of consolidation, you can regain
control of your refrigerator for the purpose it was intended: to
keep
foods cool or frozen, and provide nutritional snacks for your family.
But don't ask me if that little light really does stay on when you
close
the door. I haven't managed to figure that one out yet.
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Debbie Williams is a parent educator and founder of the online
organizing site, OrganizedTimes.com . She is the author of Home
Management 101 and Put Your House In Order: A Study Course for
Christian Home Managers.
Organized Times can be read in your In Box each Tuesday, or by
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TEEN FRIENDLY RECIPE
Chocolate Sundaes in a Shell
Prep: 10 min Bake: 30 min
1 pkg. Pepperidge Farm(r) Frozen Puff Pastry Shells
1 pkg. (6 oz.) semi-sweet chocolate pieces
6 tbsp. butter OR margarine
1 pint vanilla ice cream
1/4 cup finely chopped walnuts
BAKE pastry shells according to pkg. directions. Remove from
baking sheet and cool on wire rack.
PLACE chocolate and butter in saucepan. Heat until chocolate
softens. Stir until smooth.
PLACE a scoop of ice cream in each pastry shell. Spoon warm
chocolate mixture over ice cream. Sprinkle with nuts.
(Chocolate mixture will harden making a "chocolate shell".)
Makes 6 servings
To microwave sauce, place chocolate and butter in microwave-
safe bowl. Microwave on HIGH 1 to 1 1/2 min. or until chocolate
softens. Stir until smooth.
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PARENTING IN THE SINGULAR
Mom's House...Dad's House...Try Thinking "Out of the Box"
When relationships with children split apart, one of the most important
issues to be decided is custody and visitation. The courts feel
these
issues to be so important that in many states, a divorce can't be
granted
unless an agreement is made setting forth which parent has custody
and visitation and when. Hammering out custody and visitation is
a
lot of work and takes an emotional toll on all parties. Only after
the
agreement has been put into a legal document and entered as part
of
the judgment of divorce, can you breathe a sigh of relief and consider
it a "done deal." Or can you?
You many have to make some changes in your custody and visitation
schedule as children head into the teenage years. For one thing,
as
children get older, they become more vocal about where they wish
to
spend their time. A single mom who has had custody of her son for
ten years may now be told by her teenager that he now wants to live
with his father. What mother wouldn't be hurt and emotionally
devastated at first? But, however, by thinking "out of the
box", a
parent can step away from emotions and focus on what is best for
her
teenage child. Teens need to feel as though they are in control,
and a
parents' separation and divorce is something out of their control.
As a
child becomes a teen, however, the ability to select which parent
to
live with definitely puts a teen back in control. It may not always
be
possible for a teen to live with the parent he or she wishes to
live with,
but whenever possible, the request should be considered.
This custody and visitation thing works both ways also. Instead
of
wanting to spend more time with a parent, teens may wish to spend
less. When my children were younger they couldn't wait to go to
"daddy's house." Now that they are older, they want to
stay around
home more. Why? Well for one thing their friends live in the
neighborhood and are close to home. And another - they are
developing social lives. Suddenly there are conflicts. Dad's visit
falls
on the same night as a "must go" game/dance/concert .
Resentment
can rise when teens are forced to miss an important activity because
it
conflicts with visitation. Parents need to become more flexible
with
visitation as their children grow older.
The teenage years are filled with trial separations from parents.
This is
a healthy and normal process, and occurs whether parents live together
or apart, have custody or visitation. Whenever possible, both parents
need to honor this teenage right of passage. There are situations
when
custody and visitation absolutely cannot be changed. But in those
families where it can be re-evaluated, if a teen requests a different
schedule, maybe its time to modify the arrangement. This may
involve both parents putting their emotional baggage aside in favor
of
what is best for their teenager.
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Lord:
Prayers for Newly Single Christian Mothers" and is finishing
an as yet
untitled book for teens that discusses every aspect of divorce.
Coming
soon is a free ezine for Single Christian Mothers called "Gabriel's
Message". You can contact Marylou at marmorano with
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FROM OUR READERS
This section is intended for Parents & Teens Readers to help
each
other through tough times and issues. It's advice from those who
have
been there. Take what you can and leave the rest. Parents &
Teens is
not written by professionals and is not meant to offer professional
advice.
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THIS WEEK'S QUESTIONS
My daughter (17 1/2) just got her driver's license today. She attended
driving classes and she drove the required 50 hours with me. My
question is: Now that she has the license, what rules apply to her
and
driving now? She has a job and will be paying for the addt'l insurance
coverage. She does not have her own car so she mostly will be driving
back and forth to work or school using one of our cars. She is
basically a responsible kid and does not use drugs/alcohol. I still
feel
the need to sit down with her and lay down the law about this new
privilege and big responsibility. I have a few in mind, but would
love
to hear what you have learned! Thank you.
Becky, Ohio
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Can you help this reader? Send your responses to
info with Reader's Response in the subject line.
Since I had an email crash, I lost all questions from readers that
I had
on file. So send in your questions to patti
with
Question in the subject line!
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